Uuuugh, yes, I absolutely see the problem there. I don't like plots without opt-outs in general, because it's not always in my character's nature to... deal... well. Or at all. But I also don't want to take the plot over with my character's stuff, because that a) isn't the point of the plot, and b) it's another pet peeve of mine. xD

Ah, my best friend plays exclusively on IJ, but mostly on the OC-side of it.
And yes, I was so confused when I played there for a bit. I'm not sure whether it's as odd with canon characters (though the lingo is probably still confusing), but... the entirely different way of OOC interaction and everything plot related was so weird at first.